(Take it one day at a time , take help, talk to someone and keep fighting— and trust me, it will get better)

Life is tricky. One day, you feel like you’ve conquered the world, and the next, it breaks you in the most unexpected ways. One of the most unwelcome ways it does that is through grief — something everyone encounters at some point in their so-called “adult” life, whether you are ready for it or not.

Sometimes grief comes crashing in, sudden and fierce, like losing someone you love. Other times, it creeps in slowly — a connection that fades, a job you didn’t get, a dream you quietly put aside. And sometimes it appears in the smallest, almost invisible ways: a disappointment that lingers longer than expected, a version of yourself you miss, or memories that tug at your heart in unexpected moments.

Grief is not something you can solve or reverse. There’s no answer to why it happened or when you’ll be ‘over it’. The truth is, it doesn’t vanish, it just shifts its weight until you can carry it more easily. And along the way, the memories of what was lost — the laughter, the love, the little details — stay with you, shaping you and sometimes surprising you with their quiet persistence.

From my own experience, grief feels like a journey with no map. I’ve lived through what people call the five stages — denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance — and I can tell you, it’s a messy checklist.

I’ve circled back, skipped stages, and sometimes thought I’d left one behind, only to find myself right back in the middle of it months later. Yet, naming these stages helped me understand what I was feeling, gave me a language for the chaos inside, and slowly made it possible to carry the weight of my loss.

Denial — The Layover You Didn’t Plan

At first, you refuse to believe the world has shifted. You wake up expecting to find the person, the place, the life you knew waiting for you. It feels like the universe made a mistake and will correct it any second.

Anger — The Unexpected Storm

Then it hits you. You’re furious — at the timing, at yourself, at everyone else for not feeling this as deeply as you do. The anger gives you a sense of control, even if it exhausts you.

Bargaining — The Detour

You start negotiating with the universe. “If I do this, will you undo that?” You replay every detail, wondering if a single choice could have changed the ending.

Depression — The Long Night in Transit

This is the heaviness. Everything feels washed out, as if someone has dimmed the brightness of life. You stop fighting and just sit in the ache. You wonder if life will ever feel full again.

Acceptance — The New Horizon

And then, one day, you notice something small — a song, a smell, a laugh — that makes you smile without feeling guilty. The loss is still there, but you’ve made space for it. You get up and start moving forward, carrying it with you, holding onto the memories that shaped your heart.

I now know that everyone goes through grief — in some form, sooner or later. It’s a part of being human. Maybe the best thing we can do is stop trying to make sense of it and start learning to live with it. To let it teach us what it has to teach, and then to keep going.

So..If you’re going through grief right now and it’s too difficult, i want you to know that you are not alone, try to be strong and don’t give up. It’s okay to not have answers, it’s okay if it hurts, it’s okay if you cannot accept it.

One day, you’ll look back and realize that although there is still no clear answer but you’ve built a life around the loss — filled with memories that make you smile, moments that make your heart ache, and stories you’ll carry with you forever. That life will still hold beauty, laughter, and love.

Grief never really leaves you, but neither does the love and the memories. And maybe that’s the quiet gift: it reminds us to live deeply, love loudly, cherish the moments we have, and honor the memories that made us who we are.

Just remember life will push you toward bitterness at times, but wait — it gets better. It may break you, but then it leads you onto a different path, one where you understand that life is meant to be lived, savored, and enjoyed before it ends one day.

“So, keep going and trust, it will get better.” ❤️